posted by admin on Mar 14

Alex Jones reveals her dazzling looks for the day and night.

ALEX JONES, 35, is best known for co-hosting The One Show. She is currently presenting Let’s Dance for Comic Relief, also on BBC1, and she lives in west London with her boyfriend, insurance broker Charlie Thomson.
How would you describe your style?

It’s a lot of different things, depending on what I’m doing. When I’m not working, it’s very casual – jeans, T-shirts and Converse are what I feel most comfortable in. My least favourite thing is dressing up for a red-carpet do. It makes me a nervous wreck.

Do you have a separate wardrobe for work?

My work clothes aren’t separate because, as a presenter, I think it’s important to be yourself – the person you see at work is the same as the person who’s out with their friends. I wear high street on the show because I think it’s really nice that people at home can go and buy it if they like it.

Are you free to wear what you like on The One Show?

To an extent – obviously I’m not allowed to wear jeans and trainers, but I like playing with what you can do. When people see you every night of the week, it gets quite boring if you are in smart trousers and a top all the time, so I just try to have a bit of fun. The only thing I don’t like wearing is knee-length satin cocktail dresses – I call them “sensible dresses”.

Do you use a stylist?

I do. I’ve worked with a girl named Tess for two and half years now and she’s fantastic. Her style is very different to mine – she is very trendy – but we have learned together what suits me and we’re really good friends.

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How long does it take you to get ready to go out?
In the morning, about 15 minutes. It should probably take longer but because I usually get made up at work, later in the day, I literally just shower, blast the hair, put on my jeans and go. For work, I’ll take about an hour.

Do you ever look back on your TV outfits with horror?
There have been a few occasions, yes. I knew I didn’t like something at the time and then I’ve looked back and, sure enough, I was right. You have to go with your gut feeling because when you don’t feel comfortable, it’s usually for a good reason.

Which colours and shapes suit you best?
I don’t think black does much for me – I am better in brights. I love corals and fuchsias – all the spring colours – and I’m obsessed with yellow at the moment. It makes me happy but sometimes I come into the office and everyone says, “Woah that’s bright!” In terms of shape, sometimes I’m really girlie and dress in full 50s-style prom dresses, but then I really love simple jeans and a blazer too.

What is your favourite fashion era?
I suppose the 1950s, but I don’t really have a signature style or era. We are so lucky in britain to have such diverse styles on offer and also a fantastic high street, so I don’t see why you would restrict yourself to just one look.

Who is your style icon?
It changes but the classic for me is coco chanel. I’m slightly obsessed. She just had it so right – really feminine but not overtly sexy.

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Which is your favourite high-street store?
Definitely Zara. In the past year they have really upped their game. the only thing is, the clothes are so good that every time I buy something, I think one in four women must have done the same. What is your best beauty secret?

Probably tomatoes. they’re my favourite food and someone told me that if you eat enough of them, they stop you burning in the sun. I think they help to clear your skin, too. I also swear by false lashes – individual ones not strips – but I am terrible about cleansing. I use make-up wipes, which are apparently the devil of all skincare routines, but I do take my make-up off before I go to bed.
How much do you spend on clothes each month?Not that much, just due to lack of time really. but once every three months or so I might do a blitz and end up spending about £1,000.
Are you a hoarder or do you clear out your wardrobe each season?

I was a hoarder but my boyfriend put a stop to that. He said it was him or the clothes, so now I’ve agreed to chuck out one thing every time I buy a new item of clothing, which is fair enough I suppose.

How many shoes and handbags do you own?
I’ve got about 30 bags and probably 60 pairs of shoes, but I’m definitely not one of those girls who change their bag every day. I do like clutch bags – they’re so pretty – but I’ve only ever bought one expensive bag. It was Chanel and I felt quite sick afterwards. I’m thinking of it as an heirloom.What is the best piece of fashion advice you have ever been given?

My mum always said that if you look miserable, your outfit will look awful. Wear a smile and your outfit will look great!

posted by admin on Mar 11

Lusting after longer lashes? Grow your eyelashes instantly with these top tips.

CLUMPY, smudged mascara, tired sagging lashes and shop-bought extensions that end up halfway down your face by the end of a night out – eyelashes can be one the biggest beauty bothers women face. Read our top tips on how to get eyelashes you can bat with the maximum effect.
Condition your lashes as you would your hair.
A thin layer of Vaseline, vitamin E oil or olive oil will help condition your lashes and make them stronger if applied at night and rinsed off in the morning.

For a stronger boost, coat your lashes with a serum. Try a dose of Lash XLR8, available at Boots, to help enhance your lash length and add to the appearance of density.

Extend the life of your lashes naturally.Your lashes are very delicate so be gentle with them to avoid any breakage.
Never remove clumpy mascara by tugging at your lashes and try to avoid rubbing your eyes.

We’ve all done it, but sleeping with mascara on is a big no-no. Product build up will stiffen over night, making your lashes brittle and more likely to snap.Removing eye makeup gently and thoroughly before you go to sleep will help reduce breakage.

As with all beauty secrets, the answer is ultimately in your diet. Up your silicon nutrient intake to promote hair growth by eating more foods such as asparagus, cabbage, cucumbers, olives, green beans, beer, rice, and oats.

posted by admin on Mar 10

Professional extensions.
For the ultimate eyelashes without any daily hassle, there really is no better alternative than having individual lashes applied professionally.

I visited Designer Lashes of London where synthetic lashes were meticulously placed on my natural lashes with a specially formulated bonding agent sourced by maestro technician Janette Vince.
The result really is incredible, giving you beautiful, natural-looking lashes that are definitely worth the money if you can afford it.After a consultation, Janette painstakingly applies between 50 to 150 lashes on each eye – depending on the size and shape of you eyes –making sure you get the look you want to achieve.

What’s best is that the lashes stay firmly put until your own lash naturally falls out – so you can bin the mascara for at least a month and roll out of bed with movie star lashes.
Miracle make up.
A cheaper alternative to false lashes and extensions are mascara-like products designed to give you full impact, glamorous and long lashes.
Freezeframe’s Instant Lash is not a primer or a clumpy mess, but rather a collection of tiny synthetic hairs applied in a similar way as mascara.

Santhilea’s Magnetic Lash 1-2-1 Lash Extension System contains luxury hyaluronic acid and vitamin E to nourish and condition your lashes whilst adding synthetic hairs to the end of your lashes. This means it doesn’t just make you look fabulous, but is good for your lashes too.

With these products, as you apply the brush, tiny lash extensions are deposited to the very tips of your lashes, making them look longer and more luscious.

However, be warned, do NOT apply these products exactly as you would a mascara.Applying the fibers near the base of the lash will result in irritated eyeballs and the sensation of having gravel rolled in your eye.

posted by admin on Mar 9

As sales for flat shoes soar we ask…Is it time to kick those high heels into touch?

IT HAS long been observed that during periods of austerity hemlines get longer. Perhaps the opposite is true with heel height for sales of ?at heels have recently gone through the roof.
The painful trend for four or even ?ve-inch skyscraper stilettoes has been wiped out by a new fascination for the low-rise footwear option and both high-street stores and luxury boutiques are suddenly full of ballet pumps, winklepickers, trainers and low-rise Chelsea boots.

A spokesperson for Selfridges describes it as nothing short of a “revolution”.Even Victoria Beckham, long regarded as the Queen of the vertiginous heel, was spotted in New York sporting monk-strap ? at shoes. The models in her Spring 13 catwalk show also wore monks.
“Low platforms and wedges and nude ?nishes are on trend particularly due to the high interest in the styles worn by the Duchess of Cambridge,” says Kate Ormrod, the fashion analyst at Verdict. “There has been a move towards more comfortable styles.”Where the Duchess leads everyone seems keen to follow.

Debenhams report that sales of ?at or low-heeled shows have risen by 25 per cent in the past six months, while sales of ?ats at John Lewis have doubled in the past year.

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At Kurt Geiger lower heels now account for about three in every ?ve pairs sold. The decline of towering heels is being observed internationally, and was a key feature of this month’s London Fashion Week where models stepped into designs including ? at shiny boots by Christopher Kane and Burberry’s micro-low wedges.

And London is gaining credit for the phenomenon. At his fashion show in Milan on Saturday, Roberto Cavalli, the Italian fashion designer, said: “Women are wearing trainers now and lower heels. It’s the street in?uence. It’s cool and it’s all coming from London.”

So why the revolt? For generations high heels signi?ed femininity and glamour. Sexy they may be, practical they are decidedly not. They get stuck in things and make.
progress across parquet ?ooring or cobbles inadvisable. They are also uncomfortable.

posted by admin on Mar 4

It’s almost as if they were never designed to be walked in. Which according to Elizabeth Semmelhack, author of Heights Of Fashion: A History Of The Elevated Shoe, hey weren’t. “The high heel was worn for centuries throughout the near east as a form of riding footwear,” she says. “When the soldier stood up in his stirrups, the heel helped him to secure his stance so that he could shoot his bow and arrow more effectively.”

A craze in female fashion for adopting elements of men’s dress meant their use soon spread to women and as time went on high heels became a crucial component of women’s self image. Dr Helen Fischer, a biological anthropologist at Rutgers University in New Jersey says that high heels force women into a “natural courting pose” found among mammals with an arched back and protruding buttocks.

According to feminists, not only do heels transform the way women’s bodies look to please men but they also prevent women from running away.
According to feminist scholar and political activist Sheila Jeffreys high heels are one way in which women are forced to “compensate for the lack of power that men may be
having”.But it seems there is a rebellion afoot. Literally.

posted by admin on Feb 4

The mother and daughters that could be sisters.

WE often see female celebrities with their ‘mini-me’ offspring but what’s it really like to be so similar? These mums and daughters reveal all.
Martyne Miller, 48, is a brand manager for a car insurance company and lives in Wilsford, Lincolnshire. Her daughter Rhiannon Bates, 24, is single and lives in Bushy, Hertfordshire. She works for London Zoo.

MARTYNE: I always wanted a daughter. When I was pregnant I remember saying: “If it’s a boy I’m sending it back.” When they handed me Rhiannon life was complete.I hoped she’d look like me. I was very like my own mother and I’m sure that helped us to be so close.
She was a glamorous lady who taught me you’re not dressed without lipstick and a spritz of perfume. I dreamed of having a little girl who looked the mirror image of me which I could pass this on to.

Initially Rhiannon looked more like my brother Danny but when she was 18 months old someone showed me a picture they’d taken of us and it struck me how alike we were. I was thrilled to have this little mini-me and my mother loved the fact we were all like peas in a pod. Sadly mum died 14 years ago and I wish she had lived to see Rhiannon now.

Rhiannon and I are both confi dent, outgoing and independent, although she has her dad’s temperament and artistic nature. We do a lot together, go to the theatre, see films or go out for drinks. I’ve taught her how to make a house a home, how to dress and cook.She’s just bought a new house with a garden and wants me to show her how to grow mint and strawberries for cocktails. When we’re out I notice people staring because we’re so similar.

The first thing people say is: “There’s no mistaking she’s your daughter.” It used to rile her when she was a teenager and wanted her own identity but not now.


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RHIANNON: When I was studying in Leeds mum and her partner James came to visit. We went to the pub and a man walked over and asked James if he would mind him buying his “two lovely daughters” a drink.It was very funny, although I think James was put out. He’s only 35.

People have always thought mum and I are sisters. She’s very youthful but the older I get the more I look like her. We wear our hair similarly, we both have blue eyes and heart-shaped faces. I am slightly curvier and six inches shorter but otherwise we’re like a mirror image.

I’ve never really minded, even though all my boyfriends fancied her. It bodes well for me because they say a man should look at his girlfriend’s mother to see how she’ll age. Mum’s gorgeous, why would I not want to look like her? I always seek her opinion. I also love her style. I can go to stay and take a case full of clothes but then only wear her things.

We talk on the phone a lot and go out regularly. On Mothering Sunday we’re going to do some shopping and then we’ll have champagne and some lunch. I’ll spoil her. She deserves it.

Larisa Paskauske, 43, runs an estate agency and property company and lives in Chislehurst, Kent, with husband Dairus, 43, and their daughters Kristina, eight, and Gadia, seven. Her eldest daughter, Eve Dainovskaja, 25, a beauty PR, lives with them. She is single.

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LARISA: Eve wasn’t like me as a little girl but I clearly remember when she was about 16 or 17 catching sight of her one day and thinking: “My goodness, it’s like looking in the mirror.”

I don’t know whether it was because her hair was longer like mine, the way her shape had changed, a mannerism or what she was wearing but looking into her blue eyes that day, exactly the same colour as mine, was like looking at my own refl ection. When she came home from university our similarity seemed even greater.

I noticed she’d changed even more. She’d move her head in a certain way as she spoke or gesticulated with her hands and I could see myself. She even phrases things the way I do.
I absolutely love it. I love looking back at pictures of myself at her age and seeing my daughter staring back. It’s weird but wonderful.People who don’t know us assume we’re sisters, which is extremely flattering on my part.

I was only 18 when I had Eve. It wasn’t an accident. I very much wanted a child and I was very mature for my age. I think being a young mum kept me youthful.

That small age gap, as well as our incredible likeness, is why our relationship is so fantastic. Our personalities are alike too which has its good and bad points. We’re both incredibly stubborn and won’t back down and that can lead to the occasional blow up.

Kristina and Gadia are growing up to look like me too, Kristina especially. I’m so blessed and really looking forward to having all my girls around me this Mother’s Day.

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EVE: When I was little I always wanted to look like mum because I thought she was the most beautiful lady I had ever seen so I count myself extremely lucky that I do.

I know she’s my mum and I’m biased but she really is incredible – warm and caring and such a clever woman. She runs a successful business and a home and is a fantastic cook. I only hope I can be like her when I have a family.We have our moments. I’ve been staying with her while my flat is refurbished and we do clash sometimes. I’m looking forward to leaving only because I think it means we’ll spend more quality time together.

We’ll concentrate on one another instead of fleetingly passing in the kitchen after work.
She knows there will always be a bed for her at my place too so we can have a girly night out in London and she can stay.
We love being together and our tastes are very similar. We like eating out and going to the cinema.
We laugh a lot too and have a similar sense of humour. I’m more outgoing but other than that little separates us.
We do dress quite differently though. I experiment with different styles whereas mum’s more traditional.

However, we raid each other’s shoes and jewellery and I always forage in her wardrobe when I want a great quality staple such as a classic jacket.
This Sunday I plan to make my mum the best breakfast there is and I’m sure my sisters will help. We’ll have a girly day with lots of giggles.

posted by admin on Jan 15

Cheerleading Coach Canned For Working At Hooters

It’s time to play Florida or….Florida. Nicole Zivich was relieved from her position as coach of the varsity cheerleading squad at Estero High on November 21st. She said no reason was given for the decision. She does have a theory, though.

While there is nothing in her file with the school to suggest any wrongdoing, and school officials refused to comment, Zivich believes that her dismissal was as a result of repeated complaints of one of her cheerleader’s parents. “‘I think it’s personal. I think she doesn’t like me,’ said Zivich, who would not reveal the parent’s name. ‘She has called me (a) noneducated Hooters girl with no common sense of safety.’ Zivich said the parent did not approve of how the cheerleaders did stunts without mats and of a car wash fundraiser where some of the girls wore bikini tops.”

Zivich was quick to point out that the mats were not required until the district changed the requirements last month and that during the car wash, “Every girl had shorts on. It was optional to wear a bathing suit top. I have girls that wore T-shirts.”

Things aren’t all bad for Zivich, though. Not only did a number of the cheerleaders ask for her to be reinstated at a recent board meeting, but she is a certified surgical technologist. So, as long as she doesn’t run in to Steve Harvey, she should land on her feet.

posted by admin on Jan 7

Meet the Rising Republican Star Who Would Love to Punch Hillary Clinton in the Face

In case you haven’t noticed, Wisconsin’s been fraught with untenable political tumultuousness since one-man Human Centipede Scott Walker was elected governor. He’s bullied teachers, attacked gay couples’ hospital visitation rights, signed a repeal of Wisconsin’s equal pay law, and rolled back sex education to an innocent time when kids thought storks brought babies. But get ready for more high octane Crazy from the Arizona of the midwest — the communication coordinator for the embattled governor’s impending recall election is a charming, colorful former Hooters waitress who would just love to have the opportunity to punch Hillary Clinton in the face.

Meet Ciara Matthews. According to AlterNet, she’s a Republican attack dog type who has worked on the campaigns of such charming politicians as Sharron “When Life Gives You Lemons, Just Make Rape Lemonade” Angle and Nevada gubernatorial candidate Bob Beers. She’ll be directing the tone of Walker’s bid to avoid being recalled by a state full of people who don’t like him.

And if past performance is indicative of future fun, the people of Wisconsin are in for a real treat. In the run up to the last Presidential election, Matthews maintained a blog that she’s since deleted (but we’ve got screenshots) brimming with nutbaggery and, for a communications director, surprisingly inept attempts at coherent communication. From an entry entitled “A LETTER TO PLANNED PARENTHOOD,”

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Nobody is stopping women from having sex or from having children. A woman’s right to CHOOSE when to have sex, who to have sex with, and whether she will use birth control or not are all rights and CHOICES that can be made. Then when a woman makes a CHOICE which consequences are becoming pregnant, the only CHOICE you anti-lifers fight for is one that kills a human child.
At 23 days old a fetus already has a heartbeat and nervous system; that too early for a woman to even know she is pregnant. Everyone supports the right to choose. But if a woman makes a poor choice that result in a pregnancy, this right thing to do is not to kill the baby.
You are supporting something that tells young women that if you make a mistake, you can just make it go away and that is not the way the world works. People must be held responsible for their actions and Planned Parenthood makes it so people don’t have to be. Worse yet, you are killing babies as well.
You are advocating murder and one day Roe v. Wade will be overturned thanks to George W. Bush and the justices he put in the Supreme Court. The actions of Planned Parenthood and disgusting and I am sickened that my tax dollars are used to fund the immoral killing of innocent human babies!
One day you will be judged by your actions. I doubt you will be forgiven!

posted by admin on Jan 5

Matthews would go on to work for the Susan B. Anthony List, an anti-abortion political group that seeks to elect women who are anti-abortion to office. Think bizarro EMILY’s List. While she worked there, she blogged for LifeSiteNews, an anti-choice website that once referred to something I wrote as “cute,” which was super nice of them.

In a hypocritical turn, Matthews seems totally fine with selling chaste sexiness but not permitting sexuality — she used to be a waitress at Hooters. Now, short of cooking meth or murdering enemies of the mob, doing what you have to do to work your way through college is generally admirable, and Matthews shouldn’t be faulted for donning the shiny suntan nylons and orange short shorts of the Hooters uniform. As they say, if you’ve got it, flaunt it. But profitting from selling a plasticized form of unnatural sexiness designed to arouse men while simultaneously believing that women should be forced to face the “consequences” of actually giving into to their sexual desires is a pretty backward way of thinking. And she should be taken to task for it. So we’ve posted this hilarious picture of her in her Hooters uniform to illustrate the ridiculousness of all of this — Walker, Matthews, their wacky beliefs, and the general asshats who we’ve somehow elevated to positions like Governor of an entire goddamn state. Vote, people! This is what happens when you don’t!

But back to the blog. Here’s a knee-slapper of an entry about global warming,

Actually, I have to admit that I do think global warming is real…
real natural! I have yet to be confronted by any compelling evidence that the recent temperature trends are the result of man’s intentional destruction of the globe using such evils as automobiles and air conditioning.

posted by admin on Jan 4

She’s got jokes! But the of Matthews’ Fox News web commenter-esque ramblings came in the midst of one of those MySpace “surveys” that narcissists loved.

My mom is my biggest hero, then Sean Hannity, then Ann Coulter and we cannot forget Miss Tyra Banks!!!

I definitely see myself in politics…or as the next Rush Limbaugh.

I do not like rap. It’s cool to dance to in a club…only because of the beat but MOST of the time, I hate the words.

Speaking of the world, I love to know current evens, I guess that is sorta why I am so into politics, so I watch the news on a very regular basis. But only Fox News ëFair and Balanced!!

Who would you really like to just punch in the face? I would really love to punch Hillary Clinton in the face

What do you want to be when you Grow Up: A United States Senator.

I don’t know what’s more disturbing: imagining Tyra Banks and Sean Hannity hanging out or the fact that an aspirant US Senator would write about punching Hillary Clinton on the internet.

Either way, let this be a lesson to every idiot with big dreams: before accepting positions with important political campaigns, make sure you’ve deleted any lingering blogs that make you sound like a dumbass. Screen grabs are a real thing, and screen grabs are forever. So are hilarious sexyface pictures.

And for all the governors out there facing recall elections: vet your damn staff. Thoroughly.

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“So we’ve posted this hilarious picture of her in her Hooters uniform to illustrate the ridiculousness of all of this.”

Really? Is that really why that photo appears at the top of the page? Because I think it’s there because it’s click-bait, and so that we can all be aware of what a shameless hussy this lady is iftherewassuchathingasashamele… justification, thanks.

Look, Jez, this lady is nutso and it’s a shame that she’s apparently some kind of fairly powerfulish political person maybe. But that’s not the slightest justification for including the picture, and pointing to “ridiculousness” doesn’t help you otherwise.

You embarrass yourself when you try to have your feminist cake and eat it too. If you want to snark on an ultra-conservative because she wore hotpants, go for it, but don’t try to pretend that it fits within your ostensible worldview.

posted by admin on Oct 7

Many of my weekends this past summer included baby showers, bridal showers and weddings. What’s interesting is how social media helped initiate these celebrations of momentous milestones.

Online Dating: Mingles and Matches.

With my Christian friend’s religious prerequisites, she tried out Christian Mingles. After six months of inseparable moments between her and her new boyfriend, the engagement ring appeared and the wedding followed shortly after.

A former coworker was looking for love and found to be her ticket to the altar. And after being with her husband for a few years, she recently gave birth to a beautiful daughter.

Two happy-ever-after stories.

Offline Dating Makes a Comeback.

But online dating is not the latest trend. And the good news is there’s hope for those who enjoy good old fashioned in-person, get-t0gethers.

I’ve been married for four years and have dated my husband since I was 18 so I’m slightly out of the loop when it comes to the dating scene. However, when talking to friends and my 20-something brother, I know it’s all about Facebook. So even if you meet someone offline, it immediately goes to the online space.

New sites like blend the online and offline to create a new experience. Small, like-minded groups of singles are put together to meet for dinner, events, etc. As the site reads, “No weirdness. No work. No heavy financial, time or emotional commitment. Just a table of interesting people and the right mood to make things happen.” You can even bring your friends. It removes the weirdness experienced from both the online and offline space. It also recognizes that meeting in person will likely result in some online discussion and vice verse (if all goes well on the date, that is).

Grouper does the same thing. It groups its members based on their Facebook profiles then picks the date location and pre-pays the first round of drinks. Members bring two single friends and some dough and suddenly, you’ve got a group date. As shared on the Huffington Post, “The service requires the two people it connects to each bring along two friends on the date, creating 3-on-3 outings that harken back to the good old college days, when coeds did their courting in packs.”

Online Dating Marries Offline Dating.

So, in a way, we’re back where we started with dating. We’re meeting in person and in groups, even. But with the addition of social media, there’s a broader reach of suitors and the dates are not so blind. New dating sites are recognizing this trend and they’re blending the online and offline aspects of dating. How do you prefer to date and does this new trend interest you?

posted by admin on Oct 6

My girl won’t let me suck her toes. This is a deal-breaker. What do I do?
How much have you communicated with her about this? It’s important to be open with your partner, especially when it comes to fetishes. Does she know how important this is to you, or have you just tried to do it once and she’s pushed away?
People in relationships are often scared to admit their fetishes, which is a huge issue. Although you may think your partner will find your fetish ridiculous, she probably has one herself that she hasn’t shared with you. If she doesn’t yet know what that fetish is, you could probably discover it through some conversation.
Do you want to keep dating her, and never be able to suck her toes? If you don’t talk to her about it, that’s what’s going to happen. You may even lose interest in your sex life and start to look for satisfaction outside of the relationship.
It’s important for your girlfriend to understand how much of a deal breaker this is for you. She may find this to be “gross,” but to you it’s incredibly hot. If she really loves you, she’ll get over it and let you suck her toes.
You can offer to reciprocate anything that she wants you to do. Does she like something that you have refused to do in the past? Maybe you can trade, or come up with some kind of compromise.
The worst thing you can do is to hold in your desires. It’s going to slowly eat away at your sexual satisfaction with her, which will in turn destroy your relationship. So bring this up, and find a solution.
Or dump her – it’s your choice. Either way, you can’t stay silent, because you’ll continue to be unsatisfied. And nobody has time for that in college.

posted by admin on Oct 6

I’m in love with two people who both love me back, and feeling like my love life is spinning out of control. How do I take charge?
How can you love both of these people, and have them love you back, when you’re not in a relationship with either of them? Maybe you’ve been hooking up with both of them for awhile … but I find it hard to believe that you’re in love with both of them.
I think you need to reassess what “in love” means to you. It’ll probably solve your problem because you’ll realize you don’t know either one of them well enough to love them.
Once you re-evaluate your definition, and if you still somehow love both of them, you have a couple of options. The first is to tell both of them that you want a casual hookup relationship that isn’t exclusive. That way, you can kind of have a relationship with both of them without lying. You can see which person you like more.
Another option is to choose one of them now and see how things go. If you don’t like the direction the relationship takes, you can try dating the other one (if that person is still available).
I don’t believe that “the one” exists for any of us. There are hundreds, possibly thousands, of people we could all end up with and be completely happy. There are billions of people on Earth, and yet we find relationships so easily after meeting a tiny percentage of them.
Therefore, there must be many possible partners out there for each of us. Maybe you’ve found two of those partners. Now you have to choose.
Remember: “Love” isn’t the only factor that goes into whether or not you’re compatible with someone. Consider the person’s intelligence, looks, friend networks, personality, and other factors that you’d notice after dating the person for a long period of time.
Weigh all of those factors and make your decision. Dating both of them would only be a temporary situation to test the waters — you’d still have to make a choice.
If you don’t choose one of them, you’ll lose them both. So make a choice. Good luck!

posted by admin on Oct 3

Mick Norcross: TOWIE’s Gemma Collins and James ‘Arg’ Argent were never really dating.

TOWIE’s sugar daddy claims the couple had a showmance all along.
TOWIE’s Mick Norcross has raised fresh doubts over Gemma Collins and James ‘Arg’ Argent’s relationship, suggesting it was fake all along.
The Sugar Hut boss hinted that Arg knew it was a ‘showmance’ and added that, far from being in love with poor Gemma, Arg is secretly plotting to win back his ex Lydia Bright.
Mick’s words come after Now caught Arg, 24, on video in August saying he’d marry lovelorn Gemma – but only for the right price.
He then asked whether there was a way he could get paid for a ‘fake’ wedding.
Mick, 49, tells Now: ‘It’s all gone tits up with those two.
‘Will they get back together? No.
‘I don’t think they were ever together really.
‘Arg is going to move on.’

Asked if Arg had given up on Lydia, Mick smirked: ‘No. I’ve actually shot that scene, so you’ll find out soon.’
His words will hurt Gemma, 31, who’s always been adamant that she and Arg are the real deal.
Mick, who’s hoping to launch a spin-off show about his Sugar Hut Honeys, claims TOWIE bosses realised during the last series that the so-called showmances were getting out of control.

Asked if he was annoyed by it, Mick tells Now: ‘Absolutely.
‘I didn’t play those games.
‘But the powers-that-be knew it was wrong and they had to change it.’
Talking to us the Inside Soap Awards in London, Mick revealed that the new series, which started the Sunday before last, is returning to its roots.
‘We’ve got new producers and a new executive,’ he said.
‘We’re going to have a lot more reality.’
And in case he hadn’t stuck the knife in enough, when asked if he wished he’d dated Gemma when he had the chance, Mick laughed: ‘What do you think? I don’t regret not going there, no!’
A pal of Arg’s says: ‘Arg did think it was real.
‘It’d be a lot of effort to go to if it wasn’t, wouldn’t it?’
Read more TOWIE news in Now magazine dated 8 October 2012 – out now!

posted by admin on Oct 1

Kim Kardashian tweets about gaining weight since she starting dating Kanye.

Reality star says she is deighted to have dropped 6 lbs and feels motivated to keep going.
Kim Kardashian says she has gained weight because she is “happy and comfortable”.
The curvaceous reality TV star has been dating rapper Kanye West since April this year.
Kim believes being content can lead to piling on a few pounds.
“Yes, I have gained some weight…but I guess being happy and comfortable does that to you,” she wrote on her blog.
Life & Style magazine recently claimed the 31-year-old had added around “15 to 20 pounds” to her figure since dating Kanye.
Kim acknowledges the weight gain and has a positive outlook about getting back into shape.
“I am back in the gym, watching what I eat and that, combined with starting QuickTrim again, means I’m feeling positive,” she blogged.
“I just want to be at my target weight and feel good about myself. I hate feeling heavy and lazy and it’s not a nice feeling when my clothes don’t fit. Just gotta stay focused! Xo [sic]”
The healthy changes to her lifestyle seem to be having the desired effect.
“Since I started QuickTrim again a few weeks ago, I’m down 6 lbs!!! Yay best feeling. I was getting discouraged but now I’m so motivated!” she happily tweeted.

posted by admin on Aug 4

Generation Y and dating abuse – This is not love .

Once a week on Kiss 100′s Big Breakfast, we delve into the issues that Generation Y grapple with and last Thursday was no different. However, the conversation took on a spin that shocked me. I honestly thought Jalang’o was being sensational when he said a lot of young women in our college campuses are in abusive relationships. Don’t get me wrong. I knew of and saw abusive relationships when I was at the University of Nairobi in my time – but they were the exception not the norm. Today it seems to be the norm.
When I posted the issue on my Facebook wall, I was blown away by the responses. My question was posed just as Jalang’o had put it on-air.

You’re young and smart, probably 19, 20, 21 or even 23. However:

• Your college boyfriend beats you and you’re still with him! Why?

• He cheats on you, you’re aware of this, he beats you and you’re still with him. Why?

• He rarely calls unless he wants sex, he beats you, he cheats on you, you’re aware of this and you’re still with him. Why?

• He never supports anything you do, he rarely calls unless he wants sex, he beats you, he cheats on you, you’re aware of this and you’re still with him. Why?

• He talks badly about you to your friends, never supports anything you do, rarely calls unless he wants sex, beats you, cheats on you, you’re aware of it and you’re still with him. Why?

• He won’t introduce you to his friends, they don’t even know you, he talks badly about you to your friends, never supports anything you do, rarely calls unless he wants sex, beats you, cheats on you, you’re aware of all this and you’re still with him. Why?

Some 1,414 comments later when 103,000 people organically saw the post made me realise it’s a big deal. I started reading and also spoke to a few shrinks.

Yes, it almost goes without saying, the first and most obvious reason is that they have low self-esteem. Anyone who has ever been in that place of mental fogginess, when you are holding on to a nasty boyfriend, knows how it feels to be conflicted because you don’t necessarily think you can do better or that you even deserve better.

The other reason, and I hear it all the time on The Rush Hour with Shaffie and Kalekye is, “… but I love him”. Yap – she loves the guy and to be fair to the girl, he probably wasn’t abusive right away.

posted by admin on Aug 2

Women (young girls are no different) believe eternally in change and hope. The other big reason we stay in a painful abusive relationship is because we want to believe that it will get better. In fact, we think if we care more, give more, stick to his “rules” more, he will change. We want to believe that once he sees how fabulous we are, he will stop being nasty and be nice. Sometimes he does become nice – but for about a week or two – and then the madness returns. If we are honest, he becomes “nice” when you leave. He comes back begging to have you back and the moment you do – well, you know the cycle by now.

But very many guys tell me that ladies (young and old) also view relationships like projects. The girl has a mental picture of her ideal guy, However, she’s hooked on the reform agenda. Kenya is working on the police reforms, education reforms, the judiciary reforms/transformation – she’s working on reforming the jerk. She still believes if she kisses the frog enough times he will turn into Prince Charming and she can turn to her friends and say “look what I did. He gave up drugs, drinking, womanising and basically being a jerk because I worked on him.” Makofi ya kilo kwa huyu dada tafadhali!

Of course there are those who called into the studio and argued that if a girl watches her mother taking abuse from her Dad, she concludes that’s how relationships are and goes on to find and have an abusive relationship of her own. I don’t agree entirely, but that argument is a minefield and a story for another day. That said, it bears some weight. As grown women reading this, we need to ask ourselves what messages and signals we are sending out to young girls, our nieces, our neighbours, our colleagues and even our daughters when we stay in and put up with abusive relationships. They are not blind, they can see and hear and they know more about the details of your relationship than you can imagine.

posted by admin on Aug 1

Research from TEAR (Teens Experiencing Abusive Relationships) indicates that one in three young women aged between 16 and 24 has been in an abusive dating relationship, characterised by such things as extreme jealousy, controlling behaviours, explosive anger and isolation from family and friends.

Mind you, the emotional, verbal and physical abuse doesn’t start on the first date but builds up over time. By the time the girl realises the damage that has been or could be done, her fear of what the abuser might do if she leaves often keeps her from running for the hills.

Maria Nkerote, a friend of mine and great student of physochology, theorises that young girls are so flattered and so adored when this guy gives her all his attention and showers her with gifts – she loses herself in the emotions. It’s usually the first time they have experienced this kind of love, and they think the way they are being treated is normal. It goes back to something we torched on earlier this year – are our daughters validated at home?

Those who practice the law will tell you that because young girls are usually not tied to their abusers financially or through a child, instances of physical abuse, when reported, are typically classified as assault rather than domestic violence – so we don’t actually realise there’s a problem because there is no data to support “dating abuse”.

This is such alien territory, I don’t even know how to conclude this column. Allow me to say this: Young lady, it doesn’t make you weak to believe that someone that beats you loved you. I also understand that sometimes believing he loves you is what keeps you sane. It almost helps maintain some belief in yourself when you can’t for the life of you figure out why you are in such an awful situation for longer than you should be.

While you are sobbing uncontrollably today, tonight, someone you haven’t met yet is already dreaming of adoring you. Someone wants to kiss you, to hold you, to make tea for you. A few months from now, you’ll be thriving like never before and wondering what kept you from your dreams for so long. Take one step forward, walk and don’t look back.

posted by admin on May 15

Orem man charged with raping woman he met on LDS dating site.

Criminal charges have been filed against an Orem man who police say raped a woman he met on an online dating site aimed at LDS Church members.
Claudiu Marius Bora, 33, was charged in 4th District Court with rape and object rape, both first-degree felonies, and forcible sexual abuse, a second-degree felony.
Investigators say Bora went on a date July 6 with a woman he met on The two arranged to meet at the Provo LDS Temple before going on a hike in Rock Canyon, the charges state.
When they returned from their hike, the woman was putting her purse in the back of her SUV, when Bora forced her into the back seat and raped her, according to the charges. The woman told police she tried to fight off Bora and constantly told him, “No!”
“The defendant kept saying, ‘Didn’t you know that ‘no’ means ‘yes,’” the charges state.
An initial court appearance is scheduled for Nov. 1.

posted by admin on Apr 2

Speak Dating relaunched in Dubai at Eton Institute’s coffee lounge in Dubai Knowledge Village.

Speak Dating’language exchange programme launched in the year 2010 by language enthusiast Bénédicte Hennebo in partnership with Eton Institute, the largest language training centre in the UAE, has moved its venue to Eton Institute’s latest addition ‘The Coffee Lounge’. The Speak Dating event held once a month on Sundays brings together the multi-national and multi-lingual community of Dubai by matching their native language with an interested learner with a common interest, creating an opportunity for practicing each other’s languages.

Moaz Khan, Marketing manager at Eton Institute commented: “Since the launch of the Speak Dating event in the year 2010, it has attracted over 500 language enthusiasts and has been very well received by the diverse and multi-cultural people of Dubai. We were always keen to host the event at Eton Institute and the addition of our very own coffee lounge facilitated this move. Participants are sure to love the new venue which shall remain home to Speak Dating for years to come.”

Bénédicte Hennebo, linguist and founder of the Speak Dating concept, said: “Eton Institute has been one of the first partners of the programme when the idea was launched back in May 2010. This new development will enable us to work even more closely and efficiently. I am thrilled to welcome all the participants and look forward to the new exciting opportunities this new season will bring.”

The Speak Dating event is hosted once a month to facilitate language matches and those who have found suitable language exchange partners are encouraged to continue the conversation in their own time. Participation at the event is completely free and attendees can avail discounts on courses offered at Eton Institute as well as on beverages available at Eton’s ‘The Coffee Lounge’.

posted by admin on Feb 5

Cheryl Cole Dating History

From Ashley to Derek Hough and now Harvey?!

Cheryl Cole’s dating history reads like a who’s who of badboys and ‘who’s that?’ so it’s no suprise that z-list cheat MC Harvey thought he could convince the world he and Cheryl had a thing this week.

Ever since we first met Cheryl back in the days of Popstars: The Rivals, Cheryl has had a chequred dating life which is ultimately defined by Chelsea and England footballer Ashley Cole, who she married in 2006.

However, there have been other men since him and that’s what we’re taking a look at today.

Check out the pictures above to get the full low down on Cheryl’s dating history!

posted by admin on Feb 5

Online dating: Your friends’ comments on your love life can actually help your profile.

Before I began working with Jaime Richards, one of the matchmakers in this week’s cover story, I had to dig deep. Really deep. It’s common practice for date coaches and matchmakers to ask their clients for letters of recommendation, but they’re not the kind you’re thinking of. In preparation for our first meeting, I was tasked with asking a minimum of six friends and family members to write Richards letters explaining why they think I’m single.

The phone calls behind this were awkward (“Hey, co-worker, can you e-mail this woman and comment on my love life?”), but I wanted to go through the entire process that Richards’s regular clients do. The written responses were accompanied by my own answers to a survey in which I summed up my past relationship history. The result is a personal assessment accompanied by a generous amount of fodder to begin creating an online dating profile.

From here, Richards approaches each of her clients differently. With some, she personally compiles all of the information she has collected from friends and writes the dating bio herself. With others, she sits next to them and advises them as they do it on their own. Before we met, she created an outline of what she did and didn’t want me to highlight about myself, and the two categories were fairly equal.

“The goal is to create a marketing profile that targets the right person,” Richards says. “Online, everyone’s single greatest fear is rejection, so I work to make my clients seem friendly and approachable while still a little mysterious. The worst things online are negativity and dishonesty.”

On the list of things to keep were outgoing activities and cultural interests, while anything that can be misconstrued as an overachievement should be saved for later, she says. This means that my interest in road trips made the cut, but my master’s degree did not. And the amount of time I spent covering Occupy Denver was definitively off limits.

When creating an online dating profile, Richards advises her clients to begin their bios with a greeting of sorts and end it with a statement that the photos above it are recent. She is a staunch supporter of winking, the online equivalent of flirting, and she encourages a generous amount of outgoing messages and winks on a daily basis. ( once temporarily blocked her IP address after she winked at too many people for a client.)

She devotes her entire focus to her clients, whom she spends a great deal of time getting to know. When I met with her to create my online image, she invited me into her home and created a Brit-pop-friendly Pandora station based on the knowledge my friends shared with her. Once her clients’ profiles are finished, the idea is to narrow down quantity after first broadcasting to quantity. And while large numbers are a boon when it comes to the number of people you greet, they are bad when it comes to how long that greeting lasts.

“Don’t let them just pen-pal you to death,” Richards says. “If they e-mail you more than three times, they’re scared to ask you out, and you have to get things going faster than that.”

Richards emphasizes dropping your “type” when it comes to online dating. While the two separate men from Hoover, Alabama who were 28 years my senior might not be options, she says, clients should enter the process with the idea that anyone can be. This idea is echoed in the mildly creepy introductory e-mail with which greets new daters: “Your new love life awaits.”

The next step — which Richards and I walked through in preparation for Monday’s blog post — is the first date. According to Richards’s strategy, the entire goal of the first date should be to guarantee a second one.

In the meantime, here are some tips from Richard on preparing for a first date:
1. Women, change out of your work clothes, even if you have to bring a change of clothes with you.

2. If possible, go home and do what you need to do to relax, unwind, and come out of work mode before heading out.

3. Whatever you do, do not go out with a negative attitude toward the opposite sex. It will come through no matter what!

4. Make sure you’re on time! Do not cancel on someone last-minute unless it’s absolutely unavoidable (like the stomach flu, or a car accident). Doing so says “I’m more important than you are.” No one wants to feel that way.

5. Turn off your cell phone when you arrive and don’t set it face up on the table!

posted by admin on Feb 5

Modern dating has changed the way to meet new people. These days, singles looking for love often hire matchmaking services or create a profile on an online dating site in an attempt to find that someone special.

Janice Spindel of Serious Matchmaking, says her business has really skyrocketed in the past 10 years.

Spindel says business has gone up by 62% since shows such as Bravo’s The Millionaire Matchmaker have made her matchmaking services better known.

Rachel Federoff, vice president of Matching at the Millionaire’s Club, and also a star of The Millionaire Matchmaker, believes the show has made people more willing to try non-traditional methods to meet someone.

“More people choose non-traditional as traditional seems to not work as well anymore,” Federoff says.

posted by admin on Feb 5

Finding New Ways to Meet New People

Spindel says traditional methods used to meet new people, such as blind dates, typically don’t work.

“When most people fix people up on blind dates, they’re doing so because they’re friends with someone [and] they’re both good people,” Spindel says. “That’s not listening to what people are looking for.”

Federoff agrees that it’s difficult to meet new people on blind dates and in bars because you never know what you’re going to get.

“In a bar, nine times out of 10 alcohol is involved in excess, and, well, we know how that ends,” Federoff says. “Blind dates are [a] 50/50 [chance]. Internet [dating] can work but you have to do it right and safely as there are tons of creepers and fake-sters out there.”

Meeting someone special can be hard work, so Federoff advises frustrated singles not to focus so much on dating, but more on themselves and their life goals.

“When you are happy with yourself, others see it; love happens,” Federoff says.

posted by admin on Feb 5

Matchmaking Services Help to Find True Love

Spindel goes to breakfast, lunch, or dinner every day of the week with a different potential client. She takes note of behaviors such as good eye contact, and whether he’s considerate enough to stay off his Blackberry during their meeting.

“If I feel they’re realistic with their expectations, then I take them on them on as client,” Spindle says.

Spindel’s clients are all men, ranging in age from 27 to 78 years old.

Spindel describes clients seeking her matchmaking services as very well-educated, upscale, professional, awesome men.

“They’re smart enough to outsource people to do things for them, especially the editing of women,” Spindle says.

In order to find matches for her clients, Spindel accepts applications through her website from women hoping to meet them.

“If I approve them, they meet with me to see if they fit into the profile of what my clients are looking for,” Spindel says.

Spindel looks for a number of characteristics when matching her clients with women.

“I deal with men so clearly men are visual, they do fall in love visually through their eyes first,” Spindel says.

Spindel says the women need to be well-educated, well-spoken, intellectually stimulating, grounded, and must follow a healthy lifestyle.

She says having things in common is also an important part of a successful match.

“The more commonalities, the better off the match,” Spindel says.

posted by admin on Feb 5

Making a Connection Though an Online Dating Site.

Representative from online dating site,, says the site’s matching system is based on a combination of the information members enter into their profile and their user behavior.

“If they have specified that they are looking for blondes, but search for brunettes, they will get matched with brunettes,” Roman says. “If a user will not date a smoker, they will not see smokers in their matches. If they are looking for a long-term relationship, they will be matched with users who are looking for the same thing.” says the benefits of using an online dating site are more apparent than ever.

“ has over 38 million users worldwide, so our members have the opportunity to communicate with an extremely diverse group of people who they would most likely never meet otherwise,” Roman says.

Roman says the success rate of can be difficult to measure statistically, but she says the company has received millions of success stories from couples who want to thank them for helping them find their soul mate.

An online dating site provides many benefits to singles, Roman says, including acting as an alternative to the bar scene, meeting new people when it’s convenient, learning a lot about another person quickly by reading their profile, and it’s one place where members know that everyone is single. Online dating sites can also be helpful to people who are shy about approaching others. also has a mobile app where users can update their profiles, search for potential mates, read and reply to messages, and a new “mobile users” feature allows them to see singles near them who are also using the app.

“People are always on the move and our mobile app fully supports our users with on-the-go lifestyles,” Roman says. “Currently, upwards of 60% of our users under the age of 40 in the United States access the site via mobile device, so it’s important that wherever they are, they will be able to connect with local singles who are in the area.”

When communicating with others through an online dating site, Roman says always recommends that users exercise their best judgment.

“Never give out financial or private information to others, and do not disclose anything that is outside of your comfort zone,”Roman says. “When the meeting is moved offline, we always recommend that our users meet for the first time in a public place, during the day. Inform a family member or friend about where you are going, and keep your phone on. At we work very hard to ensure that our users enjoy a safe environment to connect and communicate with new people.”

posted by admin on Feb 5

Speed dating goes literary.

If you’re looking for love and you’d rather cuddle up with a book than belly up to a singles bar, read on.

Picture yourself in a basement room at the central branch of the Vancouver Public Library the night before (or after) Valentine’s Day, tables covered with tablecloths, soft rock playing in the background. You are carrying a book, one that says something about you. You’re going from table to table, looking for a literary connection or, in the best case scenario, a love match.

You are Read Dating.

The VPL tried this out for the first time this winter: a book-club/speed-dating hybrid, where singles rotate around the room, spending four minutes each with about 20 others, all armed with a favourite book (or DVD or CD) to break the ice; something to help fill in those awkward pre-first-date gaps.

To protect privacy and add another layer to the literary high jinks, each single is provided with a bookish pseudonym: Scarlett O’Hara, Jay Gatsby, David Copperfield. Imagine the fun when Yuri Zhivago meets up with Lara!

The two previous events (one for heterosexual 19- to 35-year-olds and one for gay/lesbian/bisexual/transgender/queer bookworms) were wildly popular, so librarians have planned two more events bracketing Valentine’s Day (doing it right on the 14th seemed like too much pressure): one for singles aged 35 to 55 and one for the 55 and older set. The Greater Victoria Public Library is getting in on the action too, with Literary Speed Dating events Feb. 11 and 14.

“It’s like a first baby step into the dating world,” says VPL information assistant Sheila Maier, who proposed the idea for Vancouver after reading about a similar event in San Francisco. “It’s safe. They feel comfortable in the library.”

Consider Elly Stornebrink, 52. The blogger/aspiring author/enthusiastic reader works full-time for a non-profit agency and describes her life as “chaotically busy.” She’s never been married, and it’s been well over a year since her last relationship.

“I think I’m a little more at peace with being single,” she says. “I think I’d still love to be married one day, but I’m kind of letting that go as I get older. Everyone seems to want younger chicks.”

Ms. Stornebrink has always wanted to try speed dating, but figured she was too old. She’s signed up for the library event to try something new and maybe, just maybe, find love.

“It would be a great side benefit,” she says, “but I don’t have any expectation that oh my God, this will be it.”

Neither did Ambrose Kwong. At 29, the suburban Vancouver mortgage broker has had a few relationships, but has never had a girlfriend on Valentine’s Day. Thinking he might break the pattern – and, frankly, curious – he signed up for last November’s Read Dating event.

“I couldn’t wait to see when Hercule Poirot met his Miss Marple or when Cathy met her Heathcliffe. I thought it was going to be epic. But I was kind of caught up in my own conversations,” says Mr. Kwong, whose own pseudonym, Tony Blake, came from Jackie Collins’s The Stud.

Then there’s Caleb Lee, 28, who has had “zero relationships.” Raised by Christian missionary parents, Mr. Lee came out two years ago and is looking for ways to meet men. He finds online dating stressful, and the club scene isn’t his, well, scene. He was interested in speed dating, though, especially at the library.

“It just seemed like such a nerdy place to do it and I liked that,” says Mr. Lee, an ESL teacher. He brought two books: William P. Young’s The Shack (a Christian-themed novel his mom recommended), and Gregory Stock’s The Book of Questions, figuring he could rely on its contents (example: “Do you pick your nose in public?”) for some conversation starters.

Mr. Lee didn’t feel sparks fly at the library, but a group of read daters moved over to a nearby pub afterward. He and another guy connected over matters spiritual, and made a coffee date. Around Christmas, there was a second date, where they visited both of their churches. It may sound like a match made in literary heaven, but Mr. Lee got cold feet. “We hit it off, but then I think I wasn’t quite ready for it.” They’re still friends, though.

If there were any happily-ever-afters that resulted from either night, Ms. Maier is unaware of them. Mr. Kwong may be single again this Valentine’s Day, but he got something else out of the experience: He has been plowing through the reading list he acquired that night: Carlos Ruiz Zafon’s The Shadow of the Wind, Gregory David Roberts’s Shantaram, Heather O’Neill’s Lullabies for Little Criminals, Dionne Brand’s At the Full and Change of the Moon.

“It’s very cool to be able to discover new treasures,” he says. “You’re meeting new people. And hey, if you don’t connect, you’ve got a great list of books to read. So it’s win-win.”

posted by admin on Feb 5

Doctor tells how dating agency stole his heart and fortune.

DOCTOR Neil Wallman was 55, recently divorced and lonely when he paid $200,000 to a dating agency in pursuit of a ‘‘blonde Chinese-Australian woman’’ with Croatian links named Lily.

Days later there was talk of marriage. The doctor paid another $100,000. Within a week Lily was on the phone needing $200,000 to help ‘‘release funds from my father’s finances in Croatia’’.

The doctor paid again. Within 18 months Lily was gone, Dr Wallman was down $2million, and the dating agency’s operators were buying Gold Coast real estate and luxury cars – including a Lamborghini and Porsche – with someone else’s money.

Yesterday a bankrupt Dr Wallman spoke for the first time about the dating agency scam that cost him almost $3.5million, and his trustee’s fight to recover the money through the courts.

‘‘As a trusting person you don’t believe there can be people out there who actually do what these people did, but clearly there are,’’ he said. ‘‘I’ve been bankrupt for two years now, and it’s all because of what they did. I’m surviving, but it’s a bit different to what I might have had planned a few years ago.’’

Dr Wallman was ‘‘an easy target’’, whose millions were obtained by Hearts United dating agency by ‘‘dishonest means’’, said NSW Supreme Court Justice Michael Pembroke late last year.

Dr Wallman exemplified a gullible victim, ‘‘but he is no less entitled to the protection of the law simply because it is difficult to comprehend the stupidity of his conduct’’, the judge said.

The former John Hunter Hospital registrar from 1989 to 1995 was working as an obstetrician and gynaecologist in Gosford in 2007 after his marriage ended.

‘‘You’re just human,’’ he said, about pouring $500,000 into an introduction agency in a matter of weeks, and a friendship with the principal controller of Hearts United, Paul Mladenis, that was ‘‘four years of lies’’.

‘‘Doctors are notorious for making bad business investments, but this was not an investment in any sense of the word.’’

He became ‘‘infatuated’’ with the woman introduced to him as Lily Bolivique. Days after the introduction he paid $100,000 for Hearts United’s ‘‘VIP package’’, which ‘‘covers you if you eventually marry Lily’’, Mr Mladenis said.

posted by admin on Feb 5

Internet dating sites change the way we find true love.

You can do everything to prepare for an upcoming date with the click of a mouse — from finding a reverse happy hour on Yelp to shopping for a perfectly nonchalant first-date outfit without a trip to the mall — so why not find the person you want to date online, too?

According to Internet tracking firm Experian Hitwise, in November 2011 the major dating sites, including eHarmony and, collectively had more than 593 million visits in just one month in the United States. Though we must keep in mind that just because someone visited a dating site doesn’t necessarily mean they used it, it does present a larger truth: more people are considering online dating. Clearly, we’re using the Internet for more than Facebook stalking and ‘Funny Or Die’ videos.

Finding a date online 10 years ago might have implied that you were a desperate social outcast who couldn’t hack trying to find real love in the real world, and thus had to resort to the digital one. However, as our digital lives and real lives overlap, especially with the powerful surge of social media, the separation between those two lives is diminishing. The general thought on dating online today appears to be, “Well, we do everything else online, don’t we?”

UT professor of marketing Raj Raghunathan, who studies theories in psychology and behavioral sciences, recently spoke at the annual Internet Dating Conference. He believes the main reason people use online dating services is to cast a wider net. A secondary reason is to screen out those they wouldn’t consider dating.

“The Internet opens up the entire world, so why restrict yourself to your town or friends and relatives?” Raghunathan said.

But therein lies the peculiar irony of dating online: we go online to broaden our dating pool, and yet with the nature of constant choices the Internet gives us, we can filter people out so extensively, that the pool becomes a trickle.

Dating sites are asking their users to rate everything, from personality to physical traits, that they desire in a mate. After online dating escaped the desperation connotation, it picked up one of customization.

“Some people may feel that they have a chance to screen potential matches better on the Internet because they can screen people based on their criteria, for example terms of age, height and weight, which might be a little more embarrassing to do face to face,” Raghunathan said.

Ever since Posh Spice (Victoria Beckham) said in the movie Spiceworld, “I’ll have a deep pan, six feet, green eyes, pair of loafers and no socks,” girls have joked about ordering their boyfriends like a pizza. With online dating services, that has become sort of a reality, with less superficial options like religious or political preferences sprinkled in.

But beyond the many boxes to click on the average dating site’s profile comes the opportunity to seek out niche dating sites, such as JDate for Jewish would-be dates (though those who subscribe to different religious beliefs are allowed to use the site) and the self-proclaimed “Ivy League of Dating,”, which requires that all its users be graduates or faculty members (with proof in the form of a diploma or piece of university letterhead mail) of an Ivy League school.

Perhaps the best way to use online dating sites is to use them with a person-to-person dating mindset. Simply use the site to meet people and face the choices you’re given while creating a profile with a level head, keeping in mind that you’re not trying to create an Adonis, but instead trying to find someone who you’ll have things to talk about with on your first date.

Also, since online dating has become yet another component of our online lives and nestled itself into the mainstream, it’s time to embrace telling others the actual story of how you met your new boyfriend or girlfriend. Because really, nobody actually believed you met your super hot girlfriend in the historical biography section of the library anyway.

posted by admin on Feb 5 Makes Russian Dating Easier.

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Rochester woman charged in multimillion-dollar tax refund scam.

A Rochester woman has been charged with conspiracy, mail fraud, identity theft and filing false claims in connection with a $45 million-plus nationwide tax refund scheme.

Michelle Torres, 36, was arrested and charged by criminal complaint, federal prosecutors said Thursday.

Torres is accused of being involved in a scheme that ran from Feb. 1 through Oct. 31 to obtain income tax refunds by filing fraudulent federal income tax returns with the Internal Revenue Service, said Assistant U.S. Attorney Richard A. Resnick, who is handling the case.

Torres is alleged to have used stolen identities and fabricated wages and tax withholdings to file the fraudulent federal income tax returns. Most of the returns were filed using the names and Social Security numbers of individuals living in Puerto Rico who had no knowledge of the filings, federal prosecutors said.

Refund checks were sent to various addresses in Rochester and other locations in the country.

In total, 8,336 federal returns were filed by a company in the Bronx, claiming refunds totaling $45.7 million.

Of those returns, 590 were sent by the IRS to various locations in the Rochester area. These returns totaled $3.3 million.

Torres allegedly participated in the scheme by retrieving the refund checks sent to Rochester and forwarding the money to individuals in the New York City area who were responsible for filing the false tax returns.

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Talking to kids about dating takes some tricks.

If your teenagers are dating — or thinking about dating — you want to know the details. However, teens are known to clam up.

Sometimes it’s how you frame the questions, Jasmine Ceja, a youth coordinator for the national group Break the Cycle, told Family Circle.

She suggests casually asking questions — and not all at once — during car rides, watching TV or cooking dinner.

Asking how they met could reveal details about age and if they attend the same school. If you demand to meet dates right away, teens might sneak around. However, if you ask when he or she can come to dinner, it gives the message that you expect to meet their dates but leaves them some control of the situation.

Try to talk about dating before they are in situations, for example if they’ve thought about what to do if their dates make them feel uncomfortable. Talking about it before an actual date might make teens feel defensive.

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Scammers targeting online dating industry.

Valentine’s Day is swiftly approaching and many are hoping to find a special someone before the 14th.

In today’s wired world, online dating is one of the fastest ways to meet new people. Singles can now easily access thousands of Web sites offering a chance at love — for a fee. In fact, it’s estimated 15 million subscribers searched for love online last year. Jupiter Research projects revenues for the online dating industry will rise from $900 million in 2007 to $1.9 billion in 2012.

Due to the popularity of online dating sites, scammers are targeting singles of all ages and locations by creating fake profiles. These fake profiles are designed to gain victims’ trust, with the ultimate intention of stealing identities or money.

Unfortunately, dating schemes trick thousands of people annually, taking millions of dollars from unsuspecting victims. These scammers are also rarely prosecuted, because most of the time they’re overseas where it’s difficult for U.S. investigators to take action.

If you decide to use an online dating site to find love, your Better Business Bureau recommends using caution when the person you’re corresponding with:

• Is quick to develop the relationship and claims instant feelings of love.

• Claims to be from the United States, but is currently overseas.

• Has a sudden emergency requiring a large amount of money.

• Asks for financial assistance to pay for travel, visas, medication, a child or relative’s hospital bills or a financial setback.

• And, never send money to someone you’ve never met no matter how serious or desperate the situation sounds.

Your BBB ranked dating services 65th among the top 100 industries nationwide in 2011 receiving the most complaints. Common online dating site complaints involve the use of automatic renewal programs, dating services submitting matches not meeting the criteria specified in online applications, services retaining profiles of people which are no longer members and the inability to cancel memberships. Be sure to thoroughly read and understand contracts before signing.

Remember, your safety is critical. Don’t reveal personal information in your online dating profile, including your full name, phone number, workplace or specifics about where you live. When it’s time to meet for the first time in person, arrange to meet in a public place and provide your own transportation.

Before signing up for an online dating site, check it out with your BBB.

John North is president and CEO of the Better Business Bureau.

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